We all have “relationship monsters” we are dealing. If not, then one thing is for sure, you’re not a person. You just have to identify what are those, common cause for relational dysfunction.

Relationship monsters can be your childhood trauma, past mistakes, past issues creeping in from the time you enter into another relationship.

If trust is not the bedrock, then the whole thing is just waiting to fall apart. If you can’t trust, you can’t love. -Paul Angona

Trust has always been an issue, in every relationship, romantically or not. Once there’s no trust, fear is present, instead of faith in each other being built. People are messy, expect relationship to be very messy. If you constantly been wondering what your partner is really doing, try asking yourself if you have trust issue. If you can’t believe in the person you’re dating, then your love is built on sand, what more could you expect then?

Oftentimes, trust issues is more on you than theirs. Listen, your partner has done nothing to break your trust. It’s all because of your relationship monsters circling inside your head, that instead of cutting it out, you are actually watering those for growth.

Your partner can never do anything to prove their trustworthiness, because you are obsessed of the idea on catching them breaking your trust; Instead of making the relationship, you’re actually breaking it.

It takes a lot of humility and vulnerability of both party to decide, whether, they want to work things out or wait for it not to work out, coz it never will. Love is not a feeling, it is a decision. Decide!